Friday, March 9, 2012

Stick, Meet Hive

3-9-12

Hey, if you add the month and the date, you get the last two digits of the year. Shiny. Also, fiction-y.
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"I just want to know if you will ever marry or are you planning to study for the rest of your life?"

Of course she was planning to marry. Didn't her sister realize that it wasn't completely up to her? Sure, she didn't know how one should approach someone whom one likes, or how to create more opportunities to spend time with someone whom one likes, etc., ad nauseam.

She certainly didn't study all the time. Certainly not in the way that her sister implied. She studied, yes, but she preferred time with her friends. Homework was just a necessary evil, something to be completed so that friendships could be built in the off moments. Schedules made it difficult to always connect with people, whether they were acquaintances, friends, or the someone whom one likes. If time management were like juggling, she knew from experience how balls could be aloft at any given moment, whereas her sister knew the theory and none of the application, or so it seemed.

Too many questions, not enough answers.

How did one get past feeling ridiculous, or was that just a constant feeling? Was a young woman allowed to tell the someone whom one likes that the someone was indeed liked?  If that wasn't allowed (and even if it was), how was she supposed to demonstrate interest in a way that wasn't considered creepy or overly needy or desperate, especially if it was none of those things? How was she not to scare a guy off through her intelligence, something which she'd been told happens? 

Why, if the world was so enlightened this days, did everyone still expect her to be married by 25 or else she was a spinster? Did people even use the word spinster these days? Even if they didn't, there sure seemed to be a lot of people thinking it. Weren't there more interesting things to talk about?

There was so much she wanted to see and do, so many places she wanted to go to. She was content--most of the time--and so it shouldn't have hurt when her sister had said what she had. But it did hurt, but mainly because there were times when she wanted and didn't have and didn't know how to get.

One friend had advised her to just go out there and find someone, if it was that important and necessary--but something that important shouldn't be undertaken lightly. Besides, it wasn't completely up to her, and she still wasn't quite sure what part of it was up to her.

She just smiled tightly at her sister. "What do you think is the answer to that question?"
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7 comments:

  1. Oh man, that's rough. My sister and her friends have a pool going for when I get married. She keeps trying to tell me what the guesses are, and, well, I keep saying no.

    If the time is right to do or say anything, you will know. When the pain of staying silent becomes greater than the pain of telling, you will know.

    At least, that's what's happened to me.

    In the meantime . . . I don't know. Shall we form a support group?

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  2. A support group would be excellent.

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  3. XD Yes.

    Are you busy, perchance, on Sunday afternoon?

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  4. Not necessarily. Why do you ask?

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  5. Well, I was thinking that maybe, if you weren't busy, you could pick me up from the airport, and then (for I shall surely be ravenous) we could go get something to eat. My treat.

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